Real, Brave & Unstoppable

What Are Your Capital-S Stories?

September 15, 2020 Episode 18
Real, Brave & Unstoppable
What Are Your Capital-S Stories?
Show Notes Transcript

Capital-S Stories.  Everyone has them.

Capital-S Stories are internal narratives and assumptions that we make about things, ourselves, or how the world operates.  But they may not be true - they're really just the lens you see through.

Capital-S Stories can be helpful, but it's the ones that are limiting that I'm focusing on today.  The ones that keep you from being unstoppable.

Some examples of Capital-S Stories:

  • I'm not an athlete.  I could never do a marathon
  • Good moms do things a certain way - the self-sacrificing way
  • I'm not good enough or smart enough
  • It's not ok to make mistakes
  • It's my job to make sure everyone is happy
  • I have to work harder - it's not good enough yet
  • There's no point in trying, things never seem to work out for me anyway
  • Committing to one thing means I'll be tied down

The good news is that you can change your Stories!

Listen to this episode to learn how.

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[00:01:27] Today's episode is on what I call capital-S Stories. This is actually not something I came up with. This is something that I learned during my coaching certification,  the Courageous Living Coach Certification program that I went through a couple of years ago. And we talk a lot about capital S stories, which are essentially the internal narratives and assumptions that we make about things or selves and just how the world operates.

[00:01:55]But the thing about the stories is that there are unhelpful stories and there are helpful stories.  And not all of them are really true.

[00:02:04]There's a quote I love by Anais Nin, and it is: we don't see things as they are, we see them as WE are. And that's kind of what I mean by these capital S stories.  The way that we see the world is really determined by the way we see ourselves. And when you start to see yourself a certain way and don't open yourself up to other possibilities, it can very much limit where you're able to go in your life. 

[00:02:31] They're basically just things that you tell yourself about yourself or the world. I'll get into some more examples in a little bit, but,  last week on my show, I talked about meeting yourself where you are, and I talked a lot about running and I'm going to use that example again. But back when I did a lot of triathlons, people would always say to me, Oh, I could never do that. Yeah. And so there's an example of a story. These people that were looking at me doing it and they've, for some reason, told themselves, Oh, I could never do that.

[00:03:01] Well, I mean, they could do it. And I told him that, I said, anyone can do it. It's just, you have to believe you can do it and you have to want to do it. And you have to put it in the work. So there's an example of a story, that was not really helpful to these people. I mean, maybe some of them wish they could do it, but they had told themselves they weren't able to. So they didn't even try.

[00:03:21]So the capital S stories, they really determine your demeanor or your overall outlook on things. For example, they can really determine whether you see yourselves as a victim or a survivor. I'm sure you know people like that that are always kind of stuck in this victim mentality.  They really have the overarching theme of, you know, a negative unhelpful capital-S Story.  Or with a situation or an opportunity, you know, whether you see it as something that's dangerous or fearful versus an opportunity. You know, two different stories you can tell.

[00:03:59] Or, you know, not being brave enough versus having the ability to cultivate bravery. That's something that I like to talk about a lot on the show because a lot of people have the story that they're not brave enough, but that's what we talk about in this show is that I am trying to inspire all of you to know that you are brave enough. You just have to believe it.  

[00:04:23] Or also just the difference between feeling like you're a failure versus feeling like you're capable.  It all kind of boils down to mindset. The way that you think about yourself. 

[00:04:34] So, as I said, some of these stories are more helpful than others.

[00:04:38] Here's an example of where you can really flip the script.  One is if somebody feels like everyone is selfish and out for themselves, they might have a lot of trust issues, or have a hard time connecting with people. And on the flip side, the helpful story might be, everyone is kind and is doing the best that they can.

[00:05:00]So you can see the difference in those two stories. And I know people who have each of these, I tend to be "everyone is inherently kind and has good in them, and are just doing the best that they can. I know people that do not agree with me at all, but I do think that people are doing the best they can with what they have.

[00:05:22]So that's my story.  But today I'm going to focus on the unhelpful stories because these are the ones that will really limit you in your life.  They're the ones that are gonna keep you from being unstoppable. And if you've been listening to me for a while, you know that I'm a coach and I really coach my clients to figure out what they want and find the courage or find their brave so they can go after it and just live an unstoppable life.

[00:05:52] So that's what we're going for.

[00:05:54]So there are a few different kinds of buckets of types of stories that there are out there.  One of them is stories that you accumulate based on your experiences growing up. It might be experiences you had with your parents or family, teachers, coaches,  friends.

[00:06:15]And these are things that,  the people in your life were not trying to put ideas into your head that said that you were bad or wrong, or not pretty enough or not smart enough or too loud or too quiet.  But as you grow up, there are situations that you get in where you might take on that story.

[00:06:35] Like if you are in first grade and you raise your hand to answer a question and you get the answer wrong and the class laughs at you, your story might be, I can never share because I'll get laughed at or something like that. Another example that kind of hits close to home mom is when you're a kid and you are a perfectionist. Pretty soon you know, you learn that by doing things really well you get a lot of attention. And so it's kind of this vicious cycle of, you know, do things well, get a lot of attention, but then the attention kind of dwindles away. Cause people get used to you doing really well at that, so then you've got to raise the bar and do better, and then it's just, you know, it keeps going, keeps going, keeps going. You might assimilate the story that is, I have to be really good at everything to be worthy of attention.  There are a lot of examples and I'm sure that if you dig back into your past, you probably can identify some of those. 

[00:07:33] The next bucket of types of stories is, stories about circumstances. So basically,  stories about, not having enough time or not having enough money or not having enough support in your life. 

[00:07:47] And then the other bucket that I think is really,  they can all be very limiting, but this one is really huge and relates a lot to what I talk about on the show. Those are just stories about what's possible for you. This is kind of, if you attended my mindset webinar, where I talked about the fixed mindset and growth mindset, this is really where a fixed mindset kind of embodies this.

[00:08:08] Like it's where you believe that what you're born with, what you have, it's really, unalterable like, you're stuck with it. There's no growth that can happen. 

[00:08:18] Like,  I'm not smart enough. I'm not talented enough. Or, you know, no one cares about that, but me.  I'm too old to do that.   I'm past my prime. I've wasted a lot of time, so I can't do it now.  I could go on and on, but you know, it's basically that I'm not enough kind of thing. I'm not good enough.

[00:08:35] But it's basically this underlying assumption that things won't work out for you as opposed to having a vision of anything's possible for me, I just need to figure out how to do it, which is what we talk about doing on the show. 

[00:08:50] Okay. So let's talk about some different examples of stories.  I mentioned the one earlier about just, like races when people would say, Oh, I wish I could do that. I could never do that.  There's a story about, you know, I'm not athletic,  I'm too heavy to do that. Or I'm too out of shape. It's too hard for me to get back into shape. I would really need to lose weight before I could do anything like that. You know, I'm just not an athlete.

[00:09:18]Or with moms, here's one - good moms do things a certain way, which is the self-sacrificing way. You always put everyone else's needs before yours. I think that can resonate with a lot of moms. And sometimes it's hard. That's one thing I coach my clients to do is to really recognize that that's not the way it has to be.

[00:09:39] You can absolutely show up for the people in your life at the same time that you show up for yourself.

[00:09:45]Not good enough or not smart enough is a really, really common one. I think we all struggle with this and I think this one honestly, is at the root of a lot of other ones.  

[00:09:57] It's not okay to make mistakes. Hello, fellow perfectionist. I went through a lot of my life with that one, and I'm thankful to say that I'm a recovering perfectionist and I do not feel that way anymore. If you're listening to this and you feel like it's not okay for you to make mistakes, this is a story that I would really love you to work on.

[00:10:18] And we're going to talk about how to work on it later in this episode. 

[00:10:21] If you're a people pleaser,  it might be,  it's my job to make sure everyone is happy or everyone has everything they need. 

[00:10:28] Another perfectionist story is I have to work harder. This isn't good enough yet. Like how many of you perfectionists out there can work on something over and over and over again, and it's just never quite good enough? 

[00:10:40] Or the pessimist story. There's no point in trying. Things never seem to work out for me anyway.  

[00:10:47] There's self-sabotage... there's a lot of people out there who feel like, commitment means being tied down. That's a story. So, you know, they might self-sabotage when it comes to actually making commitments that would be great opportunities, but they have these stories that they don't want to be tied down. I can't commit to one thing. So, you know, by changing that story, you kind of open up your world to a lot of different possibilities.

[00:11:15]So I told you we'd talk about what to do about them.  So just a little background about what these stories, why they're there, why do we have them? We talked about kinda the different buckets they come from, but you know, they're really these protective mechanisms that are like the inner critic's response to fear. I've talked about fear before on the show, but fear is like a cue-routine0-reward process. It's a loop. So, you know, you have a trigger, like let's use the kid raising their hand in class example. So you've had this experience of getting laughed at, so the trigger then becomes a teacher calling on you. Your routine is to get afraid and sort of shrink back. Like, I can't say anything cause I'm not smart enough. I'll get laughed at. And then the reward is because you didn't put yourself out there, you kind of relieve that stress. The reward is always like a relief of stress or kind of just a little feeling of taking that edge off stress. 

[00:12:15]So the stories become the routine, the part in the middle. And that's the part we can change. The cue is, you know, those are always going to be triggers in your life, you know?  And then the reward, as I said, is always just this relief of stress, a sigh of relief, taking the edge off the stress.

[00:12:34]That middle part is what we can change. We can change the story. So if we keep believing the stories, though, we really limit what we're capable of.  In that classroom example,  let's, let's fast forward a few years into a meeting at work, you know now you've had that story in your brain for years and years, and you're still afraid to participate, raise your hand, or, you know, say what you're thinking, but that really could be limiting you because you never know...you might say something in a meeting where your boss is like, wow,  she's really smart. And she really knows what she's doing. I think I'm going to put her name in for a promotion. Whereas if you're not putting yourself out there, you're not going to have those opportunities.

[00:13:18]Just remember, it takes as much effort to believe your dreams aren't possible as it does to believe they are. So the good news is that you can actually consciously change the stories. You can decide whether you want to believe something or not believe something.  But it's a matter of where you're going to put that energy in and what you're going to make things mean.

[00:13:41] Watch what you make it mean is some really great advice that I received from one of my mentors in the coaching certification program that I went through and those six words are some of the best advice I've ever gotten. But what we're saying, when we say watch what you make it mean, it goes back to a lot of the thought work that I talk about in this show - is that you have the ability to make it mean whatever you want to make it mean when somebody says something to you, for example, you don't know what the intent was behind it, but what you make it mean is often determined by the stories you have about yourself. 

[00:14:24] So for example, if you're shopping and you ask the salesperson to help you find a size  and she looks at you funny, and then you immediately think that she's looking you up and down because she doesn't think you're skinny enough to be shopping for the kind of jeans you're looking for.

[00:14:46]Anybody who's curvy and has tried to shop for Sevens or,  True Religion jeans or any of those are really like high-end designer jeans that are not made for curvy girls, you know what I mean! But I've had that story before. And now I know that every different piece of clothing, they're all cut differently and you know, that. It just, doesn't have anything to do with me not being skinny enough to wear those jeans. It just means they don't fit me. 

[00:15:15] So there's an example of, if I had the story that I feel like I'm not skinny enough, then automatically I already have this sort of defensive thing built up. So when the saleswoman looks at me, I just assume that she means that. So I've made it mean something that relates to my story. It's almost like, you know, we always, our brain wants to find evidence to make things true. So it's like that's happening.

[00:15:42]So in that example, if the salesperson would have looked at me and I would have thought it was a funny look, I could've chosen to just let it go because I don't really know unless she said to me, I am looking at you because you're not skinny enough to be shopping for these jeans unless she flat out says that you have no idea.

[00:16:03] So you're making it mean something that it might not mean. So wouldn't it be better to just let it go or say something like, yeah, so that was kind of a weird look? I don't really know what that was about and just move on.

[00:16:15]So there's an example of, this is a good segue... I was going to say that the good news about all of this is that you can actually consciously choose your stories. Earlier, I talked about how there are helpful stories and unhelpful stories. So the good news is that you can decide which one you want to believe.

[00:16:36] So it's like I said, it's a matter of where you put your energy and it's a matter of what you make things mean. You can change that story to something more helpful. How do you do that? It's a couple of things and it's work. It's good work though. And it's very interesting and can sometimes be very entertaining.

[00:16:56] So the first thing, and I always say this - awareness is half the battle. Noticing is half the battle. So the first piece of it is you need to start noticing when you have these narratives going through your head.  And a good entry point is to think about a situation in your life that's maybe causing you some trouble or, you know, some stress or something as, you know, just find an entry point of a situation in your life, and then just create a list of all the possible stories that could be making that a difficult thing for you.

[00:17:27]For example, if you're really bored in your job, you're tired of it. You don't really love it, that, you know, the people you work with, you don't love the stuff you're doing is monotonous or it's stressful. And you'd really like to look for a new job. But this situation is causing you some stress. Cause you're sort of like feeling like you would like to have a new job, but this option of going to look for a new job is kind of just - in your mind it's really not an option, but that's causing you stress because it's the tension of what you want and what you really believe.

[00:18:02] So, you know, then you start to think about what stories do you have that are making you feel that way, that are stopping you from looking for a new job or stopping you from at least seeing what's out there, even if you start to look at the stories that may be well, I should just be thankful for what I have here. I don't know that a new job would be any better than this one.  

[00:18:24] Or maybe it would be, well, what if I got a new job and I lost my job if they started laying people off? Or, I'm too old. I can't really switch jobs right now.  So you just make a list of all the things that you feel like kind of holds you back - all of them.

[00:18:41]And then you ask yourself about the situation that you're in. So the situation would be that I'm really not all that happy in my job. And I really would like to find a new one, but basically, at the end of the day, I'm afraid. So I'm afraid and I'm making it mean something because I'm not doing anything.

[00:19:03] I'm staying in this very certain comfort zone place. I'm making this tension and stress in the story of whatever it is, whichever story I pick, I'm basically making it mean that I can't go get a new job. I can't go look. It's not, you know, all of these things coming together and making it mean that.

[00:19:22]So there's an example. And this is something where journaling comes in very handy. And  I hear people all the time say, I don't like to journal, but seriously if you think you don't like to journal, you should try it.

[00:19:34] Because a lot of times, I say this all the time, is that when you resist something, you should really look at why you're resisting it and then just try it. It's like the thing that you don't want to do, you should do. It's that comfort zone thing. I always encourage people to get out of their comfort zone because that's how you keep things from getting too comfortable, like your comfort zone, getting bigger and bigger, and bigger. Pretty soon your world shrinks and shrinks and shrinks. You always gotta make yourself. Do some things that you don't totally want to do.

[00:20:03] Journaling is one of them. You should do it.

[00:20:06]So the next step in dealing with these unhelpful stories is first, you just need to make the choice that you're going to work on this. Okay. You're going to make a choice to release the limiting story and write a new, more positive supportive one. Okay. So that's the first step, just decide. Decide to change it.

[00:20:30]So the next thing you do is just ask yourself, what other options do you have that are more supportive of your goals? You know,  it's important to note that we don't usually do this 180 flip from a limiting story to like this unstoppable story in one try.

[00:20:45] There's something that we call laddering your thoughts or laddering your beliefs, laddering the new stories. So you basically stretch a little bit or level up a little bit. And then you try that one on and then you kind of keep going.

[00:20:59]So for example,  this is one I deal a lot with, actually in my work is,  you know, a mom who's maybe been a stay at home mom for a long time and as the kids get older, she's feeling a little more like, okay, I've been a mom for a long time. I've been a wife. I've kind of put my dreams on hold and I'm really kind of feeling like something's missing for me. I want more. But then there's this side of it, that's well, I have this great life... I have these beautiful kids, an amazing husband, a gorgeous home, but it's selfish of me to want more. Shouldn't I just be thankful for what I have? 

[00:21:34] So in this case, the first thing we do is question that, is that really true? That's from if you know who Byron Katie is,  her book Loving What Is, that's the first step of her -

[00:21:45] she calls it "The Work" is to question it -  is it really true? Is it absolutely true? Is it really, absolutely true that I should just be thankful for what I have and stay in this feeling of something is missing and I'm not like a hundred percent fulfilled? 

[00:22:01] No, that's not true. That's not true. Okay. So now we reframe it.

[00:22:08] So if we're going to ladder it and we're going to stretch a little bit, we start with: I feel like I should be thankful for what I have, but just let me try on this idea that it's okay for me to want something for myself, fulfillment-wise, let me just try it on and see how it feels. Okay. So we do that and we're like, okay, that feels like it makes a little sense. I feel like that is true. That it's okay.  

[00:22:34] So then you go to the next rung, which is, I can be here for my family and I can still explore what might make me feel like I have a little more meaning in my life.

[00:22:44] And, you know, maybe you still have to work on not feeling guilty about it, but then you can level up a little bit more the next rung and say, well, I do have a lot to be thankful for. I love my family. I love my life, but it's okay for me to need something for me too. And I can still want a more fulfilling life and be thankful for what I do have.

[00:23:10]So you see how we started with just trying on the idea. And then we kind of went a little further every time and it's not like you just, you know, spit out an affirmation and pretty soon you're believing this new story. It's work and it takes constant work.  Awareness, as I said, is half the battle to notice when you're having the stories.

[00:23:31] And then, you know, it's practice. First, you probably have to do it on paper, journaling. And journaling, really, I mean, it's really hard to do this in your head guys.  it's really, really, really helpful to journal it out. And I emphasize this so much because I can't even tell you how many people I get that are so resistant to journaling.

[00:23:49] So. You've got to journal, people!

[00:23:53] Anyway. So,  it's really helpful to do that. And once you start writing it down, write it down, write it down, practice that on paper. And pretty soon then you have a little easier time practicing it, like in, in real life, maybe after the fact when you're kind of reflecting on things. So you can kind of move a step above the journal. And then pretty soon you get to the point where you're able to start kind of doing this in more real-time. And that's really amazing. 

[00:24:18] So, another example is just when I talked about the races before - when people would say to me, Oh, I can never do that... some of it was, I don't have enough time. So we'll use that one. The other one was, I'm not an athlete, but,  let's use I don't have enough time.  

[00:24:37] So laddering up would be like, okay, well, I don't have enough time right now, but I could probably make time to at least start exercising. Okay.

[00:24:48] So we're still not at the, I could do a marathon piece, but now we're at the point where we feel like we might be able to find time to just exercise for like 20 minutes, three times a week or something, you know, and then maybe the next step is this is going all right. You know, I think maybe I'll up this and I'll work out for 30 minutes, five times a week.

[00:25:08]Oh, that feels pretty good. The next step might be, you know, I really like I'm enjoying running and I think I might be able to sign up for like a 5k and I know I'm not going to be able to do it super fast, but that's okay. I just want to finish it. So we've laddered up again and then, you know, pretty soon running 5k races is really fun and you know, you're not worried about your time. You're having a good time doing it. And then you're thinking, you know, I'm really in a group with running. I could see myself doing a half marathon and maybe I'll have to walk part of it, but at least I'll do the distance. Right. 

[00:25:40] So you see how every step it's like, you're just kind of stretching yourself a little bit. So you go from feeling like, well, I don't have time to do with this to oh, well now I love running and I'm going to make time so you can really build on each step of it.

[00:25:57] So, by reframing these stories too, it's important to say that, like, we're not trying to brush over any experiences that were painful, that, you know, created these stories or erase things in life that have happened that have been contributors to these stories. We're not trying to be all rainbows and unicorns with reframing.

[00:26:18] It's okay if it's hard.  We explore the stories to become aware that they're there so we're not stuck on the autopilot loop. Cause if we don't know they're there, we have that fear, the routine that we triggered, we have the loop. And it limits us. It limits us and what we believe is possible for ourselves. It keeps us from being unstoppable.

[00:26:40] And so just by exploring these stories and knowing they're there, we can stop that autopilot loop and we can start to realize that we actually can choose the more positive story and more helpful story. So if you're willing to believe you have these multiple options for you, you're more likely, to find the helpful ones with some practice. 

[00:27:04] The other thing I want to say about rewriting these capital S stories is that reaching out and connecting with others, finding like a tribe or a, you know, a community is really amazing too when you can step out and get a little bit vulnerable and share your stories. You're going to find that you're not alone.

[00:27:27] And when you know that when you feel like you're not alone, that is huge. There's something about these unhelpful stories that lose a little power when you know that a lot of, a lot of us have them. So you can start to realize, you know, that maybe your lens could use a little bit of cleaning off, you know.

[00:27:46] And we all have different stories. Some of us share. Capital S stories and some of us have really unique ones, but it's really my mission with my work over time, I have a really big vision for my business, but my, my vision is to create this community of women who can do that, who can step out and share their story, share their beautiful messes with everyone else, and just feel like connected and loved and like we're enough.

[00:28:20]And so by, by doing that, by finding the community of people, by sharing your story, by being a little vulnerable, to be authentic, it gives the person next to you, permission to be authentic and, you know, show up as themselves too. And I think that's pretty amazing. So to recap today, I talked about a really common roadblock for a lot of us in our desire to go after what we want in life.

[00:28:46] A few takeaways - One. You most likely do have a limiting story or two and starting to notice them is the first step. As I said, awareness is half the battle. I also said journaling is really great for this. Please try it. 

[00:29:02] Second. Question those stories. Are they absolutely true? You can journal evidence against them, or if you're coming up with evidence for them, journal on that too, and then see if you can pick the evidence for them apart. 

[00:29:18] And then the next step is to reframe those stories to something more helpful and supportive to your goals, using that laddering technique of just stretching a little bit or leveling up a little bit each time.

[00:29:30]The stories that you have about yourself and your world can really cripple your vision and your dreams because it is scary to go after something new.

[00:29:39]People that I work with that have this stuff come up - budding entrepreneurs, people that are just they're wanting to start a business, but they just don't feel like it's possible for them because of their stories.  Or even seasoned entrepreneurs to kind of take their business to the next level. Mindset is a lot of the times, most of what holds people back in that regard.

[00:30:04] I mentioned someone that wants to do a race or lose weight or start a fitness program. Stories can you can hold you back from achieving all of those things. Or I mentioned the example of someone's stuck in a job that, you know, they really want to make a change, but they're too afraid of the change.

[00:30:22]Sometimes the comfort zone, even though it kinda sucks,  people get kind of married to the certain versus the uncertain and the sucking certain is in their mind, may be better than the way better uncertain. Cause they don't know it's going to be way better. Or someone wanting a career change, same kind of deal, you know, they're they want a career change, but Oh, it's too late to do that. Or, you know, That's a big one.

[00:30:49] Or a stay at home mom who wants something to do with their time besides being a mom and a wife, which is being a mom and a wife is amazing, but you know, it's that whole story of, I must be self -sacrificing to be a good mom. That's a story. And you need to get over that story because it's not how you be a good mom, self-sacrificing is not the way to be a good mom.

[00:31:11] And just know that you can do this. 

[00:31:13]You can decide what's possible for you. You do decide what's possible for your stories, determine what is possible and what limits you. And I want to tell you that you have unlimited possibilities. Like they are in front of you. You just have to change your stories and believe that you can. 

[00:31:35] So before I wrap up today, If you're feeling like you're limited in your life like you are feeling like you can't do something because of, of a story that you have,  or maybe you're not really sure what the story is you just feel stuck.  And if you are noticing your capital S stories and you're having a hard time with questioning and reframing them for, remember those stories could be holding you back from a life that you dream of a life that you're excited about. So whether you want to start a business, seek out a new job or career set, a goal to lose weight, do a race, just improve the balance in your life, or just generally feel like you're coming from a mindset of possibility, I have this awesome program. It's called the 21-day kickstart. And this is totally for you. It's a taster program for new clients. We look at the stories that are holding you back and we work on reframing them and that's going to help you on your quest to be unstoppable.

[00:32:33] That's a great kickstart, great kick in the pants to get going towards what you want in life. So go check that out at kortneyrivard.com/claritykickstart. And I'll also put that in the show notes. Thanks for tuning in you guys. And I will see you next week.