Real, Brave & Unstoppable

Meet Yourself Where You're At

September 08, 2020 Episode 17
Real, Brave & Unstoppable
Meet Yourself Where You're At
Show Notes Transcript

When it comes to going after goals and dreams, sometimes we get a little bit ahead of ourselves and get frustrated when we aren't as far along as we'd like to be.

We have a couple of choices:

First, we can beat ourselves up for being inadequate, or not as far along as we think we "should" be.

OR

We can meet ourselves where we're at, accept our current place on the path and take the next right steps to continue making progress on the journey to reaching our goal or dream.

The second option is so much better, isn't it?

Listen to this episode for some ideas on how you can meet yourself where you're at with compassion.  It's the secret to kicking butt at any goal you set out to achieve!

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Hey, hey, hey everyone. I hope you're doing well. Thank you for tuning in and joining me for this episode of Real, Brave, and Unstoppable.

[00:00:16] You know, I did something kind of crazy last week, or I guess it was a couple of weeks ago now.  To give you some background, in the spring, I was training for a half marathon. I live in Maryland and the Frederick half marathon was supposed to happen at the beginning of May and then COVID hit. And of course, for obvious reasons, they did not hold that race.

[00:00:41] I vowed that I would keep up with my training and I would run the race anyway, and then I hurt my hamstring. So, it wasn't really feasible for me to keep up with my training program, and I gave it a lot of rest.  Then I fell behind and then I kinda just let it fizzle out since that, that goal was no longer there.

[00:01:09] I kinda just let it go. So, I went through the summer doing a lot of yoga, which was great, but I pretty much did not run. Pretty much at all. And if I did, it was extremely sporadic, most of all, because I hate running in the summer because it's hot and I do not do well running in the heat. I am not a tiny little waif runner-body. So, it's just not something I enjoy. And I also don't like getting up really early. So that's another reason. Lately, I felt like I really want to run again though. And I've had kind of a bug to get back into triathlons. I used to do a lot of them. My favorite distance is the half Ironman distance, which is a 1.2-mile swim, a 56-mile bike ride, and then a half-marathon at the end, in case you're not familiar with those. 

[00:02:04] So I've kind of had the desire to do another one. I haven't done one since right before my ex and I split up. I was planning to do a full Ironman that year, and then when that all happened, I just kind of just lost the drive to do it. I had bigger fish to fry, so to speak and I just didn't get back into it. I found that the amount of time it takes for training just with, you know, my kids and having them every other weekend, I didn't want to be spending four hours on a weekend day on a bike ride when I have my kids.

[00:02:42] I still feel that way, but now my schedule is such that I can probably move things around and if I wanted to, I could probably make that happen.

[00:02:51] So I thought, well, I'm going to start running again. And I've been doing that, but it feels really hard. It feels really like so much effort. And I feel slow. I feel SO slow. I feel like I'm running with bricks on my feet sometimes. 

[00:03:10] So I was running one day and it occurred to me when I was thinking about how slow I am, it occurred to me that I have two choices here: one of them is to focus on how slow I am and how heavy I feel and how I really wish I could lose these 20 pounds that I want to lose. And I could beat myself up about getting old and talk about how getting old sucks and all of that stuff. 

[00:03:40] Or, I could just kind of accept where I'm at. I could just meet myself where I am right now, and then just like take things a little step at a time. So instead of going out for a run and getting mad that I'm running a lot slower than I want, pushing myself to run faster and feeling like crap and maybe risking injuring myself,  you know, maybe it would be better for me to just take a step back, meet myself where I'm at. Slow down to walk with myself like I'm a friend, and you know, be a little kinder to myself about it. Take things a step at a time and just kind of say, it's okay. I'm a lot older. I mean, I did my last triathlon when I was my last half iron man was 41.  I'm not going to tell you how old I am! You could probably kind of guess. But you know, it's been a lot and it's also that time in my forties where your body and stuff, it just changes a lot more from year to year than it did, like in my thirties.

[00:04:47] So that's what I want to talk about today is just this concept of meeting yourself where you're at.  

[00:04:55] So I also did a thing... I think as I said, in the beginning, I did something crazy. I thought, well, you know, I get these emails from the company who organizes the Baltimore running festival, which is all the distances - half marathon, full marathon 5k, and this year they're doing a 10 K and also like a 26.2 miles over 17 days kind of thing.  All virtually of course. So, I get these emails and I'm like, I'm just going to sign up for that. I need something that I've signed up for or paid for, to really push me to stick with the schedule, the training schedule.

[00:05:34] I signed up for this, this race virtually happening October 17th. So, like on our before. And then I started to create my training schedule. I'm going to get really vulnerable with you all here about this, but I realized that there is no way in hell that I can actually like safely get to 13.1 miles, the key is safely without injuring myself, by October 17th. I mean, maybe I can, but the chances are really not that great.  The vulnerability part of it comes in with my initial reactions to this. How did I feel about it? 

[00:06:16] I mean, honestly, I felt a little dumb that I've always thought of myself as an athlete, and now it's like, I can't whip myself into shape in seven weeks - it just, it feels bad.  I mean, I'm a little ashamed that I'm this out of shape! I feel so slow. I keep saying, well, I need to lose weight, look at me now. I used to be an athlete. So, these are some of these initial, like thoughts that came into my head. 

[00:06:44] But then you know, I told you that I realized I have these two choices and, I can kind of reel it back in and instead think because I always talk about how we can choose our thoughts, like how awesome is it that I am accepting where I'm at right now? 

[00:07:02] So like with these two choices, right. I'm practicing self-compassion, self-love, and self-care for my body by not killing myself trying to make that distance in that timeframe. You know, I'm listening to my body and just taking it a step at a time.

[00:07:19] I don't know how many of you guys are if you're a runner or not, but,  I've used the Nike run club app on my Apple watch before. And it hasn't always been my favorite way to track my runs, but they do have a lot of guided runs, within that app. I started using them and they're actually really good. I was looking at their training schedule for a half-marathon and just picking off some of these training runs to use.

[00:07:51] And in my, second week of training, I'm noticing some of the speed runs that are in there. I'm like, yeah, I don't think I'm quite ready for those speed runs. They're just a little too fast, too much of the fast for me right now at this point. I really got out of shape since March!

[00:08:12] So yes, so this concept of actually listening to my body and backing off and being okay with that is a really big step for me. I have never been able to do that and still feel good about it. So today I want to talk about this concept of meeting yourself where you are when it comes to working towards a goal or a dream.

[00:08:34] So first, I just want to talk about some of the places this can apply. And this is really a lot of the work I do with clients is help them work towards goals in all of these areas and more.  So, here are some ideas - like with weight loss, a lot of people who have weight to lose, they, especially if you have quite a bit of weight to lose, it's very frustrating.

[00:08:56] Because it seems really daunting. And everybody wants to go from point A to point B really quickly, but if you can just sit back and meet yourself where you are, accept that you're at this point A and just know that every, every day point A changes, it gets closer to point B and every day you're a different person.

[00:09:15] So you're learning more, you're getting closer, you're changing or growing along that path.  So, to meet yourself where you're at now and accept it and just move along the path step by step is so helpful with that kind of thing.  

[00:09:30] Entrepreneurship too. I mean, I can speak to this. I'm an entrepreneur and it's not always easy. Sometimes, you know, you see people that are having really big months and it's like, Oh God, how can I not do that? Like they're so much farther ahead. We tend to really jump ahead of ourselves and assume a lot of things about people and what their situation is.

[00:09:57] And, you know, we don't really know that. And really, it's irrelevant because we are who we are, they are who they are.  If we can just take a step back - you know, I'm right here right now, and this is what I have to work with. And so, I'm just going to take the next right step every day to keep myself going in the right direction.

[00:10:16] This can apply to if you want a new job or a new career, you know, you want to be further ahead. It can be a little frustrating. So, you know, as I said, take a step back, meet yourself where you're at, accept where you're at right now, and then just figure out the steps you need to take to get to that point B. 

[00:10:35] Quitting your 9-5. That's another one that comes up where you really need to meet yourself where you're at and make a plan, you know, and not get frustrated that you can't quit tomorrow. You have to take those it's the right next right step. I always say that, but the next right step.  

[00:10:50] Fitness goals are a really great example. Because I just used that one with my running. 

[00:10:55] Even with relationships, if you have a way that you want your relationship to be, like a lot of couples that are in therapy. You're not going to fix the things right away. So, if you can meet yourselves as a couple where you are right now and work with what you have and just take those little steps down the road, you'll look back and be like, oh my gosh, look at how far we've come. We don't even fight about that anymore. Or something like that.  

[00:11:20] Generally just big dreams, like, you know, saving for a home, which can feel kind of daunting. Sometimes if you know, you're trying to save for a down payment or something, it's a lot of money. And so, you know, it's easy to feel really discouraged by how long it's going to take.

[00:11:37] But again, step back except where you're at. And then just start where you're at, start with what you have, where you are. 

[00:11:46] Even like sticking to a budget ...that's another thing. Or getting more organized, anything where you're trying to improve or you're trying to get to a point B, you're trying to work on some things to get to a point B.

[00:12:00] So some things that I get from clients, like if people get really frustrated about this stuff because these goals take a lot of mindset work and it takes belief in yourself to be able to get there. And it also does take meeting yourself where you're at. 

[00:12:17] Some of the things that clients say to me are, well, like where do I even start? I don't even know where to start. I have so far to go, how am I going to actually get there? It seems so far away. I'm overwhelmed. There are too many steps to take. I don't know what to do. I feel so bad about where I'm at right now.

[00:12:39] When I did triathlons, people would always say, Oh, I could never do that. And I would say, yes, you totally can. And anyone can do it. You just have to want to do it. So people get these ideas in their heads that they can't do something. And I get it. Because when I actually thought about doing more half Ironmans and possibly a full Ironman, which I kind of would still like to do someday, there was a moment where I thought, I don't think I could do that again. That's just too hard. And then I was like, wait a minute, I've done it before. Of course, I can do it again. 

[00:13:16] But it brought up a question, why do people brush their dreams aside? That's really at the core of what I do. That's what I help people do is NOT brush their dreams aside. You know, my clients, a lot of them are moms, but they've been in this place over so many years where they've brushed their dreams aside.

[00:13:37] They've really focused on being a mom and a wife, a caretaker, all of those things where they're needed. And they've been in that mode for so long, that's kind of their identity. And so that's what I help people do is say, wait a minute, this is my life too. I can show up for the people in my life that need me, but I also can show up for myself.

[00:14:02] And so, you know, people do brush these dreams aside for the reasons I just mentioned. But also, because they have this belief about who they are that really isn't true to them. I mean, I guess that could even apply to what I just said about the identity. Like they have this idea, this belief of who they are. They're a mom so they don't have time. They're a wife, it's too selfish for them to want to go after a new career where they're going to have to go back to school. So, they have this belief, but it's really just a storyline they have in their head that can be easily overcome or maybe not easily, but it can be overcome.

[00:14:45] People also have excuses, because they're afraid. Like maybe they're afraid of failing. Maybe they are afraid they're going to look stupid. Or, you know, in the case of doing a triathlon, let's say a half ironman or an Ironman if you've never done that before, it seems very scary.

[00:15:07] Like, what if I die? No, I'm just kidding. Well, I mean, some people think, oh my God, I'd die if I did that. But like, you know, what if I don't, what if I can't finish? Like the fear of failure? What if I can't finish? Or what if I'm the last one out there

[00:15:22] Fear is a very common thing that keeps people, it just stops them dead in their tracks. 

[00:15:28] Another reason is that people bite off more than they can chew. And this relates exactly to what I'm talking about in terms of meeting yourself where you are, you know, people want to be further along than they are, and they beat themselves up for not being there.

[00:15:43] And they give up or, or actually like what happens first is they want to be further ahead. So, they do too much, or they try to take, you know, take a bigger chunk of the path, you know?  It's like, if you're hiking, like the Appalachian trail or something and you want to be done with it in a certain amount of time, that really is not enough time,  and you're going to go hike 50% more in a day than you really should, you're gonna hurt yourself. So, it's kinda like that. People bite off more than they can actually chew. They do more than they really can safely, and then they get frustrated. So, they give up. So, for example, maybe they'll on a whim, they'll decide they're going to do X, but they just expect to do X and not really work for it.

[00:16:36] And when they can't do X, they just feel like they're stuck. So, then they start to feel inadequate, unworthy. Like they're not enough. 

[00:16:45] So what are you going to do about this?

[00:16:49] How do you meet yourself where you are?

[00:16:51] So I'm going to give you some ways here. I think seven is what I have here.  

[00:16:57] The first one is your inner mean girl or your inner critic. Learn to recognize her voice. So, you know,  your inner mean girl - that's what I like to call it - some people call it the inner critic or negative voices or whatever it is that you like to say, but it's that voice inside that says you're not good enough. You can't do this. 

[00:17:23] You know, and generally the inner mean girl is born from fear and is trying to protect you from getting hurt or failing. It’s trying to protect you, but she's not really helpful. So, if you can learn to recognize her voice, that's really helpful.

[00:17:41] I always say that just being aware is half the battle. So, an example of your inner mean girl is like what if, instead of beating yourself up for sucking at something - that's your inner mean, girl - you suck at this. You're not good enough. You're never going to get this. What if I practice a little self-compassion and just met myself where I'm at right now?

[00:18:03] What if I say, Hey, everyone has to start somewhere, and this is what I have to work with. So, thank you, inner mean girl, for making me feel like poop, but I'm good. I've got this. Yes, I'm fine starting here. And I'll just take the baby steps and I'll get there and it'll feel good. I'll do it. Right.

[00:18:23] So that's what I did. I settled into my 11-minute per mile recovery pace, and I took care of my body and my mind. 11 minutes, if I think about it per mile, feels really slow. And I'm a little embarrassed to even say it on this show that was how slow I was running. But you know what? I know some of you all out there are probably saying, oh my gosh, I could never run that fast. 

[00:18:47] For me, I used to, I mean, I've run half marathons at nine-minute miles, and that's not super-fast for a runner, but 11 minutes is a lot slower than nine, obviously. And I'm not saying I'll never get back to that, but it is hard. So, I had to work with that. My inner mean girl wanted to say, oh my gosh, you are so slow. You're old. You're you need to lose weight. You're blah blah blah. My inner mean girl wanted to say all those things. And I just said to her, look, you know what. This is where I'm at. I'm going to just go with this because I really don't want to listen to your bullshit. 

[00:19:24] So, the next thing is to just really take a step back and look at the path to your goal as a journey, it's like a road trip.

[00:19:36] So if you have two choices - I know like some of us really like to just fly somewhere and get it over with, right? But some of us really enjoy road trips. So, I want you to think about it this way if you really prefer flying somewhere. Think about a road trip -  part of the fun of going on a road trip, and maybe your road trip that you're thinking of is going to be like a shorter one, but you know, I don't like to go on road trips all the time, but part of the fun of a road trip is really seeing what you see along the way, like all the different things that you would skip over if you just flew and got there so much faster.  You know, and remember that every day, so on that trip, on that journey every day, you're a different person.

[00:20:18] You wake up a different person than you were the day before. You're just like this little bit better version of you. So, remember that you really do learn along that path, along that journey. And you have these beautiful well experiences that, you know, if you skipped the road trip, you'd miss out on those.

[00:20:37] So, I mean, you're going to have experiences maybe you don't like, too, but that's just life. Right. 

[00:20:43] So think about it though, the path is the goal. If you can learn to sort of appreciate the journey and what the journey brings to you, that's a really good frame of mind to put yourself in,  

[00:20:56] Approach things with this beginner's mind.

[00:20:59] It's okay to be a beginner, even if it's something that you've done before.   It's okay to go back to the beginning. Like, and actually one thing that I just thought of as I'm talking to you, all right now is, you know, even though I've run for a great portion of my life, I've done lots of races, some just, you know, slow and not caring what my time was, and somewhere I really have trained for a certain time. And now when I'm going back to running, I can go into it with beginner's mind of like, okay, I'm a whole different person now starting this journey.  You know, to this certain distance I want to do, and maybe I'll learn something new since I'm approaching it from kind of a new way.

[00:21:45] That's kind of exciting to think about

[00:21:47] You guys. You all know about comparisonitis. I know you do. Stop doing it.  It's so easy to compare ourselves to other people, but just remember, it's like you are YOU, okay? You can't instantly get to a different place. So, you just need to come back to the now, you know and be here now. And just like I keep saying, take the next right step, take, just take the baby steps.

[00:22:15] You know, when there's something that we're interested in doing that, you know, we want to learn, we want to be good at, we sort of don't think about the fact that everybody has their gifts and, you know, person A might be a lot farther ahead - and I'll just keep using, running as an example, but in running - than I am, but, you know, person A, maybe likely has been doing this for a lot longer of a time.

[00:22:47] And so, you know, I have to really stop comparing myself to that person because she's just at a different place or, you know, there are a lot of things too, that someone might be better at something than you are, more skilled at something.  But it's sort of like you have to back up also and look at the things that YOU are skilled in. We all have our unique gifts and they're not always equal.

[00:23:10] You know, and I think that that's something that we forget is that it's really easy to look outside of yourself and wish that you were like someone else. Whereas if you can just pull it back and have gratitude for the person you are and learn to see the gifts that you do have. It's like avoiding that grass is always greener syndrome. Like, you know, you just look at your own grass and see, look what I have here. I'm really good at it. It doesn't mean that you can't go out and, you know, try new things, and you know, strive to be good at something different. But we all have to kind of remember that - not everybody has the same space they're starting from.

[00:23:49] I always talk about practicing gratitude and I hope y'all, aren't getting tired of that, but I'm just going to keep talking about it because when you practice gratitude for where you are, it is a game-changer. I mentioned the Nike running app earlier, and one of the guided runs, well, the one I was doing yesterday, which was a 10 K guided run.

[00:24:14] And they're really good. So, if you're a runner, even if you're just starting running, they have a ton of introductory runs and stuff, very motivating   During the run, the coach was talking about focusing on how amazing it is that you're running today. Like you could have not put on your running shoes. You could have not made the commitment to run.

[00:24:36] You could have been sitting on the couch. And so, I started, I was like, yeah, yeah, I'm slow right now. I feel like it's hot. And I feel like I need more water and I just want to like, ugh. But, oh my gosh, like I did, I am out here running. I could have decided that it was too late in the day. It was too warm for me to run, but Hey, here I am.

[00:24:59] And I got almost six miles in. So, you know, practice gratitude for that. I was really supposed to - okay, so truth be told. I ran like 5.8. I was supposed to run 6.2. So, I bailed out a little early. I'm I'm being honest here.  So, you know, I also could have beat myself up for not finishing the last little bit. But no, I was like, you know what? I got that done. That was really a great feeling. I did it.  And also, I've been out of the running routine for a while. So, getting back into that habit is also something that it takes me personally, it takes me a while to really forge a new routine that way.

[00:25:42] So yeah, so I just like, am I'm so grateful for getting myself out there and doing it and listening to that guided run.   So, if you practice gratitude for what you've accomplished, even if it seems small to you, try to look at it from the other perspective of, wow, look what I did. This was amazing. I could have sat on the couch, but I got out here even if I felt slow and it felt, you know, hot and I felt tired. So yeah. So, try that.

[00:26:11] So I like to use the word or the phrase, you need to stop should-ing all over yourself. Like you should be this, or you should do that. You know, stuff like that. Like when you're trying to go after a goal, you have to stop, as it relates to the comparison thing,  but you know, stop feeling like you should do something because someone else is doing it or like, you should be farther ahead. 

[00:26:45] I know like a lot of my clients feel that about their lives. They get into their forties or even late thirties. And they're like, I should be further ahead in my life than this.

[00:26:56] Okay. Well, who decides that? Guess what? It's a little secret. You do. So, you need to stop the "shoulds". If you find yourself saying, well, I should do this, I should do that. You need to really look at if you really need to do it because chances are, if you feel like you should be doing it, it's not really something that you're passionate about or it's something that's really going to serve you. 

[00:27:24] That's not always true, I mean, sometimes we just have responsibilities, But watch the "shoulds" because they can very easily get you off track. And the goal of, or the point of reaching a goal or the point of meeting yourself where you're at, as you embark on that journey to reach a goal is to really take your head out of it, to really kind of feel your way to the top of that mountain, to do things from a place of,  trusting yourself and, you know, following your heart, that kind of thing when you're going after goals.

[00:28:00] But, remember, as I said earlier, you are YOU, so when you start feeling like you should be something else, you should be different, you should do things differently. You're YOU so appreciate YOU. Somebody else is saying the same thing about you. I should be like, so-and-so - like YOU. 

[00:28:22] And the last thing I have to offer with this is just to say, and I've said it many times during this, but it all kind of comes back to, just take the next right step.

[00:28:32] My coach told me once, you don't need to have it all figured out in order to start. And that phrase has stuck with me ever since. It's been kind of a life-changer, really. Because I'm somebody who likes to have everything figured out before I start doing it.

[00:28:54] I like to have a plan. I like to have all the logistics figured out. And the fact is well, and you know, and that's perfectionist thinking, but the fact is like, you know, you could plan for a long time and never start if you're waiting for it to be perfect or waiting for it to be all figured out. The truth is that if you have it all figured out, even if you have it all figured out, things are going to come up. You might think that you have control of the situation. You might think that there's no uncertainty, but there always is. There always is in life. There's nothing that is ever certain. So just always looking for what is the right next step for me to take is really, when you're going after a goal, is really important.

[00:29:48] And I also want to say too, and this is like a very coachy thing to say, but yeah, goals are great. I love when my clients have goals because goals are the entry point. And you might've sensed this a little bit as I talk today, but goals and dreams are an entry point for a person to learn and grow and really become a better version of themselves.

[00:30:14] There are so many things that come up when you're working towards a goal or a dream that are just internal blocks that you might have or limiting beliefs or, you know, things like that. And when I help my clients work towards something, we identify those things and work through them. So, they become a better version of themselves.

[00:30:37] And as they do that, they're able to get places they didn't even dream they could get; you know. It's really about learning to see their life in terms of their possibilities rather than their limits. So even when you start with a goal, sometimes I feel like you have the limits. So, you're limited by, it seems so hard to get to this one goal. So, it's like this invisible limit that you have, you're going to get to that. But then, you know, once you do all the work, getting up to that point, you bust through all these other barriers and pretty soon, boom, you've just jumped over that hurdle and you're onto the next one.

[00:31:16] So it's pretty cool work.

[00:31:18] So anyway, I'm just bringing it back around to that race I signed up for. So, I'm so crazy. I told my mastermind group that I meet with weekly - I said, I'm so crazy. I did this thing. And they're like, no, it's not crazy. It's just, you sign up for stuff like that, so you get it done. I'm like, yeah, that's right! You sign up for stuff like that, so you get it done.  

[00:31:40] And that does tend to be true for me. That's how I do kind of get a kick in the pants to stay on track.  We have all have things, different things that work for us in terms of getting things done. So yeah, bringing it back around to this race.

[00:31:54] I actually started a social group when I signed up for the race. Called Real, Brave, and Unstoppable. And I would love to have as many people as possible join me in this. It's the Baltimore running festival. I'll put the link in the show notes, but you know, it's virtual, so you don't have to live in Baltimore or anywhere near Baltimore to be able to do it.

[00:32:18] As I mentioned earlier, there’s 5k, 10k, half-marathon, a full marathon. And then there's also 26.2 miles over 17 days.  So, you sign up, you pay your race fee, you get an UnderArmour race t-shirt, which is a nice, t-shirt not just a cotton junky t-shirt, but it's a nice one.  and a medal... woohoo! 

[00:32:40] And, the best part is just, I think it's, it's kind of a cool, would be a really cool thing to do as a group, together... I would have you join my Real, Brave, and Unstoppable Facebook group, which even if you don't want to do the race, you should definitely do that anyway. I'll also put the link in the show notes.

[00:32:56] I have a really great vision for that group, and it's a little tiny bit quiet right now, but great things are coming.  And then we would just kind of like, you know, cheer each other on. And like the coolest thing is I thought of this idea and I'm still working out details, but I really want to do t-shirts, and sell the tee shirts for about 20 bucks a piece or something like that. And then the proceeds - I would like to donate to a charity that is focused on empowering young girls to, you know, have the confidence and,  basically inspire them that they can do anything they put their mind to in life.

[00:33:32] And, I want them to grow up being, you know, very confident that they deserve equal pay,  that they shouldn't need to work twice as hard to make the same amount of money that, you know, they should get treated the same as a man would.

[00:33:48] And I really, I really believe strongly in this and that it shouldn't be about for girls - it shouldn't be about how you look, how sexy you are, you know? It should never, ever, ever be about that. It should be about your brain and the kind of person you are.  You know, the dreams you have in life and yeah, I'm super passionate about that.

[00:34:07] I'm still searching out a charity that I would like to donate money to, but I would love it if you would follow those links, check it out so you can stay up to date on what I've got cooking and just be a part of this. I think it will be a lot of fun. It's coming up super-fast -  I'm recording this on September 8th of 2020 and the race is October 17th of 2020, or that's officially the race date. So, check out the links in the show notes. And please, please, please, please stay connected to what I do! You can sign up for my email list at kortney@kortneyrivard.com so you can also get updates there.  Again, the Facebook group, Real, Brave & Unstoppable

[00:34:50] You can follow the link in the show notes, or just go search it on Facebook. Follow this podcast and go sign up for that race! And then shoot me an email when you do kortney@kortneyrivard.com. 

[00:35:05] All right. You guys, thanks for tuning in, and I hope you found this helpful.

[00:35:08] If you decide to do this race, you can set the goal of doing whatever distance is comfortable for you, but meeting yourself where you're at right now and taking the next right step every day with me. So, I am looking forward to having a tribe of people to do that with me.  

[00:35:24] Again, thanks for tuning in, and I will see you next time.